I KNOW A THING OR TWO ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS!

Happy New Year!!
Yes!! it is happy New Year because this is the first time we meet on this forum since the New Year.
2014 has been a roller-coaster so far but through it all I am thankful.
Hope it has been good for you. How are the resolutions going??
It is a shame it’s been almost a year since my last post.
I have been procrastinating about the next post for the longest time.
 This inconsistency thing has to stop.
 My conviction about what to post finally came after two significant occasions, Firstly this month we are doing a series in church about RELATIONSHIPS which has been such an amazing sermon series so much so that I felt the need for me to share the little I have learned/know about relationships. Secondly I watched an episode of suits  season four where one particular scene took  me aback; when Logan Sanders insinuated that Rachael was still in love with him and wanted them back together when she confessed to Mike about the ‘little’ thing they had—(THE MISTAKE).
I mean, I said to myself as I watched that episode, how can this dude be such a clueless idiot?? Oh yeah I know all about that because I know a THING OR TWO ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS.
Relationships, relationships … yes RELATIONSHIPS. I want to say it for as many times as it takes for it to sink into your heads. For you guys who know me well enough, I’m pretty sure you would stop at this point and ask yourselves; what is he going on about??
But hey when I say relationships I do not necessarily mean romantic relationships: I mean friendship, how we relate with other family members, our parents, our co-worker, and most importantly our relationship with God.
Mind you this does not mean I am shying away from my expertise on romantic relationships, I know all about that also and I know it’s true because I am a love junkie—(SHOOT ME!!)
 AND THIS DOES NOT MAKE ME ANY LESS of the GA NGSTA that I am!!
I’m still a G, always has always will.
In this post I am not going to tell you about how to run a relationship or the dos and don’ts because I myself I am not sure about these things.
In my opinion, I believe ‘THEY’ simply DO NOT EXIST. One size never fits all and remember “Different strokes, Different folks”
My point being there are simply NO RULES OF ENGAGEMENT FOR THE GAME.
I want to share experiences, observations, things I have learned over my twenty something years of existence.
A couple of weeks ago I had a very heated argument with my old lady, this is significant because we hardly ever fight we are like a cute couple in their dream phase. A dream phase that lasts for a lifetime.
This is partly because I am by nature this really cool kid, I do not rebel, I do not push it, I do not fight back. I believe my parents always know best, I am flexible, I will bend over backward if that’s what it takes to keep peace, I can’t force it, I will work away from a fight and give the benefit of the doubt even if its kills me to do so.
You see, for us that works out in our favor but then  on the other hand, sometimes you need to force it, you need to stand up and fight for what you want or believe,  you need to be stern—NO RULES AT ALL!!
 In Matthew 22 verses 36-40 it is written that God created us for relationships; In fact the greatest commandment is to love God with all of our heart, soul and mind and to love our neighbor as our selves--- this is all about relationships. But that is not exactly easy all the time- Relationships are messy and tough.

The good book continues to state that we are created for relationships but even the greatest of relationships will be tested and if found wanting would fail and fail miserably so. For as long as you remain sincere about your feelings for someone, something or your relationship with God; you will disagree, you will have your moments of doubt, and you will have your lows. Strength however lies in our resolve to persevere, hold on, desire to make things right, knowledge that we fall to rise again and accepting  that we are human and hence we would fail and miserably so.
Look at the relationship I have with my mother for example, in as much as we are so much in love with each other we still do fight.
Or more so importantly;
Let us look at for example our relationship with God, we constantly fail him every day, yet his love for us is  unwavering. He holds on, he is patient, he would give us another chance and another chance and even another.
What do you think our lives would be like if God walks away from us, condemns us or turns his back on us for every time we go wrong or do not act in accordance with his will?
If only as humans we would cultivate this, the world would be a better place.
Yet this is what we constantly do, we find faults, we find it very difficult to forgive, to move on, and to open up a clean page. We look for the slightest chance to snap.
You cannot see the best in someone/something if you are constantly looking around for reasons to justify why it is not/may not be the right thing.
Anyway let me ‘cut it’ really sorry about my abruptness. Until we meet again you may want to listen to the sermon series- HAPPILY EVER AFTER.
 

Find link below:
http://www.nairobichapel.org/NC/sermons.php
Four real life experiences on relationships including; not about me, in-laws and out laws, no more drama and from roses to dishes.
LISTEN AND ENJOY!!
Will be back sooner than you think!!